Have you heard the news?
Prince/Princess Charming is DEAD!
I know this sounds a little harsh, but to say he/she/they don’t exist just doesn’t feel urgent enough.
I know this may come as shock to some of you. Why wouldn’t it?
With societal pressures constantly encouraging you to find that one special person to “complete you”, it makes total sense that you would be in a hurry to check that box.
I mean no one wants to be incomplete. (Gasp)
Get married, reproduce, live happily ever after, right?
Wrong.
Why in the world would we ever hand over something as precious as our happiness to someone else to manage?
I don’t know about you, but I have a hard enough time making sure I’m okay on most days without being responsible for someone else’s eternal bliss.
This is NOT a call to action to live out your remaining days partnerless.
This IS an invitation to look at what you’re hoping to find.
This year I will have been married for 20 years. I am head over heels, passionately in love with my husband. Marrying him is the best decision I’ve ever made.
With that said, I am about to share something with 100% confidence.
In the unfortunate event that we were no longer to be together, I would still be happy.
Let me tell you why. He is not my entire source of happiness.
My life is full of a variety of relationships and passions that contribute to my happy life.
Remove any one of these and the result is the same, I would still be happy.
Some of you may be thinking, “Wow…she wouldn’t be sad if she lost her husband?”.
Of course, I’d be sad. I’d be devastated. Being a happy person does not mean you are void of emotions like sadness or grief.
The truth is, I don’t “need” my husband to be happy. He is a part of my happiness; he is not responsible for it.
Expecting a partner to live up to the daunting task of providing you with eternal happiness is not only unrealistic but also unfair.
We are responsible for our happiness.
Until we appreciate that we can not control one another, our relationships will always lead to disappointment.
Want to live happily ever after?
But a crown on your head.
Are you ready to fall in love with yourself? Drop a comment below.
